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How to Move from Lazy to Intentional and Goal-driven

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What’s intentional living?

Never before in this fast paced world have we needed to hear/practice intentional living. In its simplest form, intentional living is having and being conscious of what really matters to you, to the point that you live your life giving these things priority.

Common sense tells us to go to school so we can find work, have money to get by and save up for retirement. Meaning we get up in the morning, dash into the shower, take breakfast if we find the time and go to work, come back home every day exhausted (we may even need to get two jobs) to possibly a demanding kid(s) and/or spouse and the cycle continues. This is the reality for most people.

Life is full of beautiful things that can give us pleasure and satisfaction if we engage with life the right way. But for some reason we’re inclined to believe that we will get there if and only if we can work hard at clearing our schedules, help our kids finish school etc.

When you live intentionally you do lots of things on purpose, serving the most important desires of your heart rather than just living in response to the everyday pressures of life like the need to put food on the table.

How will you identify a life that’s being lived intentionally?……If you want to do things on purpose and focus on what matters to you then sometimes you may need to.

  • Take a course, read a book, join a public speaking club to learn a new skill.
  • You may need to be more discrete with your spending so you have enough to spend on things that contribute to building your future.
  • Take a fitness class so you’re better able to carry out your activities
  • Take a holiday, take trips to enjoy the beauty of nature.
  • Change jobs

What you’ll choose to do will not be same for others or even feature on my tiny list above but the important thing is that you are acting in response to things that matter to you, things you care about which may/may not be what society expects but it gives you great satisfaction and bring out your inherent talents and gifts.

Intentional living will help you live a life you’ve carved out for yourself, enjoying the things life has to offer, being proud of yourself and contributing to the society.

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Laziness and unintentional living

Being unwilling to consistently put the effort required to make important changes in our lives is a good definition for laziness in this case. There are days we may not feel like doing much but for a person to refuse to stand up and take consistent actions that have the potential to usher in a happier and a more cheerful life is what can be termed a general lazy attitude.

But wait! laziness?……… It has been proven that the term laziness is not a good explanation for person’s behavior. It hides the fact that this laziness is an indication of more serious and deeper issues around a person’s life that need to be dealt with. These issues may include

  • Not Having a Good Enough “Why”

Some people have never thought and come up with good enough reasons why they need to do certain things. So they could say well I’m just lazy today and don’t feel like doing anything but the real reason is that they do not see much value in what they are doing. This is like a rolling old factory machine that manages to get by every day and is repaired occasionally but does not have the ability for high performance.

  • Plain Old Fear

Every human has “silent” voices in their heads that keeps asking if they’re good enough. The difference between people is just how loud this voice is. The fear of failure and regret brings inertia described as laziness. The fear to succeed and create new expectations that weren’t there or just fear of having to do things differently, things we having been doing before brings inertia described as laziness.

  • Low Confidence

Why will you want to start something when at the back of your mind you know that you will fail? Why start when you feel your skills/qualification are not good enough for you to get the job done. Low confidence will manifest as inertia that one can’t explain.

  • Task Focused

We can be tricked to believe that we are living a normal life because we make schedules in the morning and spend our lives clearing them all day. A few items cleared in our schedules can leave us comfortable especially when we have an explanation of why we didn’t complete the others. Our schedules are not some kind of blue print for living a great life.

There are many people who are lazy but don’t realize it simply because they go to a 9 to 5 job daily. Laziness manifests in different forms and you could be lazy and not know it. The following are possible signs of a lazy person, a person who is not living intentionally. (I know we are all guilty of one or even more of this attributes, the goal of this article is not to push you down but rather to create a sense of awareness so we become more intentional, so just keep an open mind while reading J )

  • You’re inconsistent with your planned diet, exercises

Who doesn’t want to be healthier and fitter? But there’s a choice to make and more importantly this choice may need to be made daily.

  • You don’t read or don’t finish books that you start reading.

Life is all about perspective, a better perspective changes our attitudes and actions.

  • You have casual conversations daily on social media platforms with virtual friends whom you have no real connection with. Select and engage in conversations online that will help build you up.
  • Spending after works hours largely on TV, diligently following series and movies on Netflix. A good movie from time to time is absolutely divine, but hey! All things in moderation since we have to make time for our dreams.
  • Not making out time to go to places, see new things and meet new people. When we’re focused on becoming better persons we look for people who may or may not be near us. People who can make a contribution or whom we can contribute to.
  • Not listening to people and really connecting with them to learn from their story. There are persons around us whose stories and experiences can provide for us our much needed change. But the question is; do we listen to learn? Or maybe we listen so we can also get a chance to speak.
  • Not having goals. This is the big one and it summarizes the previous ones. Intentional people have goals and these goals determine how their life is lived, what they do after work, whether they read a book, take a class, meet with a mentor etc.

The Importance of a goal driven mindset

Living intentionally is a choice to be made daily. If you must live intentionally you must have goals. To have success, we will always need to be working towards a goal(s). A goal that matters to us will make us work hard. Things may be difficult but we will want to persevere because the dream in our heads is beautiful. Goals help us determine what activity is important and what’s not so that we stay focused. We need to be motivated to do things because life happens and sometimes we don’t feel like it or setbacks can make us discouraged! A good enough goal is a powerful intrinsic motivation that keeps us going.

What to do today

There are a few things you can begin to do today to set you on a path of intentional living

  • Begin Journaling. There’s a simple reason for this. Writing is thinking. Sitting and staring at a window is not thinking. Many thoughts cross our minds in a day and this feels unconscious. When we begin to write we are forced to concentrate and make sense. As we write we will begin to see patterns and be conscious what we’re doing daily.
  • Review the to Do List

Removing activities that are not overly important allows us to have the time to sit with ourselves. Then and only then will we begin identify what is and is not important. Further down the road we will have “to do lists” that reflect our goals.

  • Decide to meet new people. Making friends is an intentional act. Potential friends and contributors to our lives are sitting near us in the bus, the airplane the saloon. Are we thinking of connecting with them or we all have our heads in our mobile phones?

So what’s your say? Is it worth the effort you will need to put in to start living an intentional life? Try it and let’s meet and discuss in the comments section! Kudos!

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