27 Mar 13 Habits to Help You Love Yourself More
Loving yourself is one of the best things you could ever do to make your life better. But what does this mean? Don’t we all love ourselves? I want you right now to ask yourself this question and answer honestly?
A lot of people battle with who they are and how they see themselves. Reconciling these two notions is what self-love is about. It is easy to get caught up with life, trying to make money, take care of family, friends, and partners. So much that it becomes difficult to make out time for yourself. Loving yourself is essential if your wish is to be successful and have a stable life.
Self-love is your ability to take care of your own needs and desires. It’s about having a healthy view and sense of yourself. If you are struggling with your self-esteem and self-confidence or just feel the need to reconnect with your inner self, here are 13 self-love habits to set you on the right track.
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1) Stop negative self-talk
Sometimes we are clouded by negative thoughts about ourselves that cripple us and make us unhappy. Self-deprecating thinking will only make you more dissatisfied with your life. Instead of expecting the worst out of every situation and blaming yourself, learn how to love and accept yourself. Nobody is perfect and so long as life goes on you will keep on making mistakes.
A simple way to stop negative self-talk is by replacing each negative idea you have about yourself by a positive one. When you stand before your mirror instead of being harsh with yourself about your weight every day, think of the part of your body you are the most proud of and focus on that.
If you made a mistake at work today, think of the last great decision you took and remind yourself that you can do it.
2) Forgive yourself
This goes hand in glove with the previous point. A loving heart is one that forgives. You need to learn how to forgive yourself for your previous mistakes and move on. One of the reasons why people develop negative thoughts about themselves is because humans have a tendency to cling a lot more to painful memories than happy ones. Say you made a mistake at work and lost your job. This is a terrible experience but it won’t serve you to hang on to this one mistake and let it define the rest of your life.
Making a mistake doesn’t make you incompetent, nor stupid. Neither does it mean your life will end. Forgiveness is the first step to embracing a better life. It helps you reconnect and be at peace with your inner self.
3) Be kind to yourself
Self-love is like a lifelong romantic relationship with yourself and this demands a lot of kindness and patience. You are not and will never be perfect. The world we live in today, will constantly remind you of your little flaws and inadequacies. When that happens you need to have a space where you can recover from external aggressions and motivate yourself.
Your own expectations will put a max of pressure on you and may sometimes push you to the brink. That is who it is important for you to be more kind with yourself. Speak kindly and gently to yourself. Celebrate every little win no matter how small they may seem. Even if it was saying no for the first to an over demanding friend. Celebrate yourself whenever you want. You do not need anyone’s permission to be proud of being you.
4) Set clear boundaries
There is no love without respect and this applies to yourself. You need to love and respect yourself by setting boundaries on how you treat yourself and let others treat you. In order to build healthy relationships it is important to let people around you know exactly what you tolerate or not. Do not be scared to let go of people in your circle who bring negativity to your life.
Self-love entails ushering in more love into your life and this even through the people you associate with. Love yourself enough to recognize situations that will hurt you and move away from them. If you are struggling with bad habits such as smoking, set yourself physical boundaries by staying away from areas where you could have easy access to cigarettes.
5) Stop comparing yourself to others
There is a reason why you were born the way you are. You are unique and should make it your life mission to cultivate the gifts and talents you have rather than compare yourself to others. The more time you spend thinking how less pretty , or smart or successful you are compared to others you reduce the amount of love you have for yourself and dampen your self-esteem.
6) Respect your body
Loving yourself equally includes taking good care of your body. A sound mind must exist in a sound body as such you need to be mindful about your diet, how much sleep you get and exercise often. Listening and being in tune with your body is essential to maintaining a sound connection with your mind.
7) Learn when to slow down
We live in an era where being extremely busy is the trend. With people juggling over 2 jobs to survive, kids, family and a thousand other things moving fast seems like the only way. But sometimes you need to slow down your life to make sure the things you are doing are truly in alignment with your purpose in life. Take some time to evaluate and process the things happening to you.
Are you truly busy or are you getting involved in a thousand things just to avoid being alone? A great way to slow down and learn how to live in the present is by practicing Mindfulness meditation. This meditation process allows you to process your thoughts in the present so as to always keep you aligned with your destiny.
8) Practice gratitude
One of the reasons why most people are unhappy and dissatisfied with their lives is because they focus on what they lack. We constantly think of how much money we didn’t make, the houses we don’t have, the partners we haven’t yet met etc. All these negative thoughts will only make you feel bad about yourself. On the other hand, living in gratitude changes your perspective of life to a more positive one.
Practicing gratitude entails keeping track and being thankful for all the good things you have in your life. When you are able to focus on the positive aspects of your life, you cherish yourself more and feel lucky to have the things in your life. Being grateful equally raises your vibration and helps you attract more positive things into your life.
Practicing gratitude on a daily basis will help you get rid of the stress and pressure weighing you down. It will break down your barriers to self-love and make you a source of joy and happiness for those around you. Try writing down 3 things you are grateful for every day. No matter how small, do this and watch the level of positivity in your life rise.
9) Don’t be scared of your emotions
Loving yourself unconditionally requires you to be honest and true with your feelings. Your emotions act as a feedback loop letting you know when things are good or bad. Learning how to understand them is what will bring your happiness.
A lot of people bottle up painful memories and emotions as a coping mechanism. They crowd their lives with unnecessary things. Carrying lots of emotional baggage will only make you anxious and depressed.
That is why processing your feelings is very important. No need to hide bad memories and hang on to them for years. Let yourself feel them and then let these thoughts go.
After pain come deep moments of joy and that is what you should hold on to. Listen to yourself, no need to pretend you are strong all the time. It is okay to break down from time to time to rise up strong. Do not feel guilty to embrace the joys of life. You deserve it! Let yourself live freely and intensely.
10) Put yourself first
Self-love is all about making time for yourself when necessary. You are probably running around taking care of people around you, trying to nail your next promotion, securing your business etc. You invest so much energy into doing things for others but when do you ever stop to take care of yourself? You need to find time to recharge your batteries and do so without any guilt. To help others you need to be able help yourself first.
So don’t be scared, take a spa day if you can relax and enjoy a good massage. Or just enjoy a good cup of coffee or a glass of your favorite wine every Sunday in peace and quiet.
Learn how to enjoy being alone with yourself. A lot of people are scared to stay alone with their thoughts. But these moments of deep introspection and comfort will actually help motivate you on your self-love journey.
11) Be bold
An amazing thing happens when you are able to speak up your mind without any restraint. Not only do you feel free to be your true self, but people respect and admire you for that. Remember you are in charge of your life and how you treat yourself will encourage others to treat you the same way.
It doesn’t matter what you look like, how much money you have or how smart you are. Never sit and wait for someone’s permission to say or do what you want. Being unapologetically yourself is the strongest form of love you can show yourself.
Do not worry the world will adjust to you.
12) Trust your strengths
How often do you remember the things you did wrong than what you succeeded to achieve? How often do you focus on your flaws rather than your strong suits?
For most people the answer to this question will be often. Humans have a natural attraction to negative bias because we have live in a society where competition is the order of the day. This may not always be healthy as it makes people become more worried about their shortcomings rather than applauding their successes and wears out levels of motivation. Your failures act as teaching moments on how to be better. If you find yourself ruminating more on the negative things in your life than the positive you need to stop right now!
Remind yourself that if you have made this far, the best is yet to come and the process only gets better. Reprogram your mind to see obstacles as stepping stones to your glorious future. Turn them into opportunities for growth and celebrate every little win along the way.
13) Find your passion in life
One of the best ways to show yourself love is by indulging in things that truly make you happy. Engaging in activities you love positively impacts the way you feel about life. The more you are happy, the more you love yourself, and the more you stay motivated to get what you desire out of life. It doesn’t matter if it is a hobby or your job, whatsoever gives you a sense of purpose, embrace it fully.
Self love is a journey, we keep inching forward everyday. It is not only about blowing kisses to yourself in the mirror but sometimes involves hard work for you to earn your self-respect. Don’t shy away from applying these tips because the rewards will be awesome.
Sending you love and light!